How to know more about yourself through your team?

Today I want to share with you interesting phenomen and technique in the same time. Probably you have heard once that "what you dont like in others - its a part of yourself".

It sounds strange, but its true. And often when we have some conflicts within a team, we tend to fight and dont even think about possibility to use it as a learning experience for ourselves and learn more about it.

so, how we can use our team or group of people with whom we work together as a source of information about our personality?

Remember, that every member of the team represents different part of your personality. And as you have different kind of relations with different member of the team - the same relations you have with your internal personal parts.

For example, we have a team with 4 members (all names and characteristics are not real, but possible to be in real life):

Ann - very femine and quite person with sense of self-esteem and wiithout leadership ambitions. Ready to follow the team and leaders.
Peter  - strong guy with autocratic style of communication and leadership.
Mary - Very ambitious about leadership, with tendency to lead impulsively, never follows others.
John - a little bit lazy with lack of sens of responsibility, but with fantastic communication and negotiation skills.

So if we look at the group dynamic we can see that Mary and Peter probably will not like John and Mary probably will be irritated by Ann's quitenes.

It can happen becouse Mary exlude and dont accept her part od personality which is quite and ready to follow, and other part which is sometimes aacts unresponsible.

Sometimes we can think that we have  difficulties with people who like we - we start compete, but actually we have difficulties with those who represents some parts of our personality which we dont accept in ourselves.

Last time when I was working in the team with almost 10 people, I did interesting activity for myself. And I want to share this technique with you as a tool for self-assessment.It requres awareness and honesty for you, but it gives you back a lot of intersting insights.

Task:
1. Write down the names of 4 people with whom you have good relations.
2. Write down the names of 4 people with whome you have difficulties or conflicts in communication.
3. For each of 8 person write down 3 characteristics which best describes this person.
4. Look and reflect on the answers about which parts of your personality each person represents.
5. Send me your comments and feedback about it :)))

We as a drop in the sea - have within ourselves ALL variety of personal characteristics. Some of them we accept and aware about, others we try to exclude.

The more we accept - the more flexibility we have in our behaivoir and the better relations we have with the members in our teams!